Did you know that your first call is actually is your first date? Men usually treat the first call as a rather technical procedure keep the conversation brief, plan and focus on the end result, the meeting place of the first date. Women often over analyse the first phone call, making judgement on the length of the call, the .. The interaction on the first phone call is a very important step to establishing rapport and a connection unless your Nostradamus it really is impossible to predict whether the person is for you simply on a call. Remember we all have our preferences for our communication techniques, some of us are auditory, some of us are visual, kinaesthetic while others a combination! So never be too judgemental!
OK so how can we improve the chemistry on your first face to face date?
1. First of all ensure you call at the right time! Early evening is best as during more than likely your potential date will be consumed by work and other responsibilities.
2. Right place – ensure you are in a comfortable, quiet and relaxed environment, never at work, in your car whilst fighting traffic or at a friend’s house, create an environment with a little background music to set the scene, TV can be very distracting as the other person on the line could be listening in to what you are watching rather than being present in your conversation.
3. Create great small talk – Never be boring, instead be interesting, engaging, never talk about the weather, politics, your health or past relationships. Talk, tease, laugh and exchanging ideas are an excellent in establishing common ground.
Find out if you have similar sporting interests, travel, favourite past times, talk about the fun experiences!
This is a great opportunity for you to establish whether your date is adventurous or prefers something more relaxed for your face to face meeting.
4. Plan – have a goal in mind! Think of a date, time and a couple of locations that you can suggest for your first date, whether it is a chic lounge, a picnic in the park, Ferris wheel ride at your local theme park or relaxing Sunday lunch over the harbour!
5. Limit your phone time! I recommend getting off the phone as soon as you can, limit the call to 5 – 10 minutes, don’t linger be brief, bright and bubbly! Keep up the mystery and your date will want more! It enhances excitement!!
Bad phone call – Stop the blame game – look within and take responsibility and realise we are all human and no one is perfect! Quickly turn a situation around with light heartedness.