The question of whether or not and how much appearance matters when attracting women is something that even the most experienced and successful pick up artists will debate over. AMost men will assume though, Athat the clothes make the man, Aand if they don’t have the right appearance, Athey are not going to get the girl. AAnd this is true to some extent, Abut the thing is, Aa lot of guys put a little too much stock into this.
I’ll give you an example of why it does matter to some extent:
Okay, Alet’s say that you are scoping out a total emo hottie and she looks fantastic to you. AShe has the whole emo look down pat and it’s something that you are digging on right now. AHowever, Ayou are dressed like a business man, Aas you are on your lunch break. ASo, Ayou have the whole clean cut, Asuit and tie look going for you. AIn this situation, Athat look might be enough to turn her off. A
Some women, Awhen they are deep into a certain style, Athey really are only attracted to guys that are of the same style. AThat does not mean that you don’t have a chance at all with her, Ait just means that you would have a much better shot if you were kind of pulling off a similar look to her. AIt all boils down to the fact that people tend to be drawn to other people that are “like them.”
Of course, Athere are examples of this not being much of a factor, Aeither, Aso it’s not really a make or break kind of thing. AIt’s just that you kind of raise the odds of having an instant sense of rapport with a woman if you are in sync with her style.
I’ll give you an example of why it does not matter:
Okay, Aso you are not geared up like a office guy, Ayou are just in your regular clothes. AAnd by regular, AI mean a pair of jeans, Aa t-shirt, Aand sneakers. AAnd you are maybe 20 pounds overweight, Aand you are not exactly giving any male model a run for his money in the looks department. AThis is one of those situations where appearance does not matter.
See, Ajust because you don’t fit a certain standard does not mean that you cannot make a woman feel attraction. AYou might not have the six pack, Athe Ed Hardy shirt, Aor the skinny jeans on, Abut you can still get a pretty girl, Aif you display alpha male qualities and don’t act like a total wuss when you approach her.
The main point is, Athere are times when having the right appearance will make things a LOT easier, Aand it will build an instant feeling of rapport, Aand there are times when it really does not matter at all. AJust don’t get hung up on your looks being too much of a factor, Abecause, Awell, Aisn’t that a girlie thing to do?